Do you remember playing Truth or Dare when you were a teenager? What did you prefer, telling a truth or accepting the challenge of a dare?
To be completely honest, I was afraid of both, which is probably why I avoided this game at all costs growing up. And all through my marriage I found myself still avoiding both of these options.
But divorce changed all that; it tends to do that. Moving through and forward after divorce is the fastest way to conquer your fear of speaking your truth and daring to do what you have never done before.
Lately I have been thinking a lot about all the ways that we allow fear to hold us back from what we want and are meant to do. And I have decided that I will no longer allow it to prevent me from experiencing what I want in my life.
Last weekend I did something that I have wanted to do for a long time but have always made excuses as to why I couldn’t do it. I participated in my first Warrior Dash. The Warrior Dash is an obstacle run. It is a 5K run with about 10 obstacle challenges along the course.
While I take care of myself and am pretty fit, the thought of the Warrior Dash was a little intimidating for me. And yet, at the same time, it has always looked like something really fun to do. So in the spring, I posted a call to action on my facebook page to see if anyone would like to do it with me. To be honest, I got a lot of people telling me how fun it looked; but I did not get many who wanted to commit to doing it with me. Despite the lack of commitment by others, I wasn’t going to give up.
Eventually, a lovely woman who I went to high school with jumped in and said she would love to join; we hadn’t really connected in almost 20 years and I was delighted to seize this opportunity! Then, a friend and colleagues said she would love to join as well. By the end of the summer we had six women on our team, three that I had never met before. We decided to name our team, Dash Divas.
So last weekend, I found myself standing at the Starting Line of my first Warrior Dash with my six Dash Divas, all of us doing something scary for the first time. And it was a blast!
We were nervous, and excited, and committed to finishing together…leaving no woman behind! Here we are crossing the finish line!!
I was so proud of myself, so proud of us. Daring to do something we have all wanted to do; challenging ourselves to fight through our nerves and our fear!
Life during and after divorce is full of opportunities to dare ourselves to live the life we imagine, and deserve; if we choose to see those opportunities and take advantage of them.
It can be comfortable to stay where we are, even if it is not where we really want to be. Moving forward is uncomfortable and frightening, but everything you want is on the other side of fear. And the only way to get there is to step out of your comfort zone.
So, I dare you.
I dare you to do something you have always wanted to do.
I dare you to look for opportunities that scare you, and to face your fear and do it anyway.
I dare you to be uncomfortable, knowing that what you really want is on the other side of it.
I dare you to speak your truth.
I dare you to push yourself harder than anyone else will.
I dare you to be vulnerable and scared, we all are.
I dare you to take risks, because you will grow from them.
I dare you to let go of what was, because your future is waiting for you.
I dare you to open yourself up to new friends, new experiences and new love.
I dare you to ask for the support you deserve.
I dare you to express your desires out loud.
I dare you do just one thing every day that moves you towards the life you imagine.
I dare you to be YOU…because you are magnificent; you are brilliant, bold and courageous beyond measure.
Together, just like me and my Dash Divas, we will boldly move forward, leaving no woman behind.
You are not alone. We are in this together!