So the time has come for me to “come out” and share more intimately and transparently with you where me and the D Spot are headed. It is time for full disclosure.
Over the past couple of years I have been walking my talk in my own personal life. Having gone through my own divorce almost 8 years ago, I have been on my own personal journey since then; a journey towards designing the life that I imagine and deserve. And guess what? It really works.
The self-exploration, the personal growth work, and the relentless pursuit to be all that I am meant to be are all paying off…in all areas of my life.
However, I have discovered and learned so much along the way, and I want to share some of it with you.
The greatest thing I have learned is that living your extraordinary life includes many ups and downs. The challenges are inevitably unexpected, and yet are reliable. It may seem from my newsletters, facebook posts and tweets that I walk through each day empowered, inspired and skipping with joy, but the truth is, I don’t.
Yes, I am living the life that I imagine, and deserve; and I have never been happier. But, it takes daily practice, discipline and focus to not only make progress forward, but to maintain the standard that I have set for myself. A standard that I set after my divorce when I gave myself permission to figure out and define what I really, truly wanted to experience in my life.
Living with mediocrity in my life and relationships is something that I have never been good at, and yet for many years I did. When I finally acknowledged that I was not truly happy in my life, I slowly began to imagine what it would look and feel like to actually be happy. I wanted it, but felt powerless to make the changes that would get me where I wanted to be. Truth be told, I had absolutely no idea how to do it. All I knew was that after my divorce, I made a commitment to myself, that mediocrity would never be good enough…good would never be good enough. I wanted extraordinary. I wanted exceptional. And I wanted it in my life, love and everything in between.
It has been a journey. A journey I never could have foreseen, predicted or imagined. It has had unimaginable highs and excruciatingly painful lows. Through it all, I have discovered, learned and mastered what it takes to create an extraordinary life and love. And teaching this to others, to YOU, is my passion. It is what I am meant to do.
Whether it looks like it from the outside or not, no one who goes through divorce, man or woman, comes through it unscathed. We are all affected, we are all forever changed. However it is what we do with the change that determines our destiny.
Full Disclosure. I am no different than you.
I have my own fair share of co-parenting challenges; they are painful and they are not at all what I wanted. And while I can’t control my Ex, or any other person, I am in full control of how I react and respond to them. And I take this control seriously.
I attracted, created and sustain an extraordinary relationship with a man I love, but he is flawed. I am flawed. And it has many challenges and obstacles. We have four kids between us, three Ex’s (he has been divorced twice), step parents and plenty of parenting issues. Integrating and blending our lives has been difficult, and yet through the challenges, we grow closer and our relationship deeper and more extraordinary. I walk my talk; and it is not always easy. But it works and that is why I do what I do.
I have plenty of bad days. I have days when I am scared to death of what my future holds. And if I have what it takes to create the life that imagine; especially because what I imagine is a BIG vision; abundant with resources and love. I have days when I think that I am not enough…not good enough, smart enough or capable enough of doing all that I want. But I know that this is just my inner mean girl talking and that she has no idea what she is talking about! And I know how to shut her up! There will always be those who doubt and who are worried about me, including my inner mean girl…but I walk my talk; and I know that creating my plan and sticking to it is going to get me where I want to go. I also know that surrounding myself with people who inspire, empower and support me is critical to living the life I desire.
I have my own coach…actually coaches. I know that I am not meant to do this alone. And neither are you. They are the ones who push me to be more than I already am, to be, do and create all that I am meant to. They challenge me and hold me accountable. I could not do this without them.
You are exactly where you are supposed to be. You have all that it takes to get exactly what you want. Now it is your choice; how badly do you want it?