I am so pleased to be able to share my new friend and colleague, Karen McMahon with you! She has been kind enough to be my guest blogger this week. She and I have philosophies that are in absolute alignment…as a matter of fact, when I first read her post, I thought to myself that I could have been the author!
I hope you enjoy her words of wisdom.
I will Thrive in My New Life: Consciously choose thoughts that serve you
By Karen McMahon, Certified Divorce Coach
Have you ever heard the saying, “Fake it ‘til you make it?” The idea is this… Divorce is difficult and painful at times, that is a given and no one is suggesting that you walk around making believe you are blissfully happy. That would be equally unhealthy. You need to feel your feelings. But you do not have to wallow in them.
Take a close look at that negative statement you so often say to yourself and see how true it is. For instance, if your overriding thought is, ‘I’m never going to be able to make it on my own”, how is this going to make you feel? Actually, how true is that statement?
What have you done in your past, who do you have in your support system, what protections are yours under the law that point to the fact that you will be okay? But your fear, your gremlin, lurking in the dark alleys of your mind, is there to scare you and keep you in fear. You can choose to live in the ‘what if’s’ and they are usually all the negative possibilities of what might happen, or you can change your thoughts.
Shine a light on that dark and scary place that your mind goes to by replacing your negative, self-defeating statement with a truer one. “I am strong and capable and I can make it on my own.” Or “I will not only survive this divorce, but once it is over, I will thrive in my new life.” Choose the words that resonate with you, your real truth. Then say it out loud. Say it again and again. How does it feel? Your feelings will change when you own this new positive statement about yourself. Your energy will shift from negative to positive. And you will begin to manifest the future you desire.
- Take a few minutes to jot down the negative statements about yourself and your situation that you have been focusing on
- Ask yourself how real they are
- Replace them with statements that more accurately represent who you are and what you are capable of creating for yourself
- Begin to live these new statements
If you have been listening to that negative voice in your head, change it today and share your experience with us.
Karen McMahon, Certified Divorce Coach & Master Energy Practitioner, wrote this post. Karen is the founder of KM Life Coaching and co-author of “Navigating Your Divorce: A guide to the Legal, Financial and Emotional Basics”, a free ebook. Karen’s passion is to work with men and women going through the divorce process; helping them navigate the difficulties while focusing on personal growth and embracing the opportunities that lie ahead.